Friends, Lovers, or Adversaries?
How astrology helps you get along with people
From the time we take that walk into kindergarten on the first day, all the way through our golden years, meeting new people can be fraught with stress and anxiety. We may worry that our new teachers won’t like us when the school year commences in September, or that our supervisor at the new job will take an instant dislike to us, making life at work not so pleasant. Or perhaps we worry that going to a new social club for people who share our pastime interests will be like walking into a courtroom, with a silent jury examining our every move.
Not to worry, though, since as we grow older we do learn to handle such situations with more aplomb, but if we know a little astrology it can be a big help to us. For example, if we can plan our first meetings for a day when there are strong, positive Venus aspects, we increase the chance that the new people we meet will be in a good mood, and not inclined to be judgmental. But what about the long term, after we’ve been accepted by a new teacher, or boss, or group leader and want to gauge our relationships with them. Here we must turn to what astrologers call “synastry,” the astrological art of chart comparison. When we first meet a supervisor, or make contact with someone we want to start a friendship with, or someone we might consider going out on a date with, if we know his or her Sun sign, we can determine a lot about how our energy will interact.
There is, of course, more to synastry than just Sun sign comparison, but if all you have to go on is the Sun sign of your new teacher, boss, friend, or lover, then it’s a great place to start. Listed below you will find some clues to how you might relate to others, both positively and challengingly, based on your Sun sign. However, before you learn the ins and outs of Sun-sign synastry, let’s take a look at an in-depth astrological chart comparison.Of course, the more information you have on the person you are comparing your astrological signatures with, the more knowledge you will glean from the analysis.
Carl Jung, the famed Austrian psychoanalyst, and a Leo, acknowledged the usefulness of astrology. He often did the birth charts of his clients, particular the married couples who came to him for therapy. Jung discovered that in many of the partnerships the Sun sign of one person was in the same sign as the Moon of his or her partner.
The Sun indicates our basic identity and the Moon is the barometer of our emotions, so clearly when two people have a Sun-Moon conjunction, there is a strong rapport that exists between them. Each one is on the other’s wavelength. Of course, if the Sun and Moon are in a tense aspect, such as a square or quincunx, then the two may have to work harder to achieve harmony in the partnership.
When two people become business partners, it is usually a good sign if there is a compatible aspect between their Mercuries, since this planet is associated with the mind and with how we express ourselves. In a love relationship, Venus, the planet of our love nature, is certainly the prime planet to consider, but Mars, the planet of our sexual drives, is also important. When Venus and Mars are in a combative aspect between two lovers, the relationship may be quite stormy indeed.
With Saturn as the planet of longevity, when there is a positive aspect between this planet in two people’s birth charts, if they are working on a professional or romantic relationship there is a good chance the union will be long lasting. For example, if one person’s Sun is trine or sextile her partner’s Saturn, they may celebrate many anniversaries together. However, if her Venus is in a challenging aspect to her partner’s Saturn, such as an opposition, then she may come to regard the partnership as a burden, and think of her partner as cold and unfeeling. If her Mars, the planet of her energy level, is in a challenging aspect to Saturn, she might feel that her partner is stifling her, and, in effect, sitting on her energy.
Astrological synastry can actually be done in any situation that involves more than two people. In a lover’s triangle, as an obvious example, all three parties are ultimately linked together, for good or ill. Of course, people can be linked in many ways, not just through romantic encounters. If three people start a business enterprise, or do a rock concert or a telethon together, all of them are joined together astrologically, and rules like we’ve been discussing all apply.
Let’s take a look at a joining of interests that took place in January of 2012, at the instigation of a late-night talk show host and comedian, and see what the astrological ramifications of the host’s little joke were. On an episode of Late Night with Jimmy Fallon, which was broadcast after midnight on January 13, 2012, Fallon performed as a character called Tebowie, satirizing the media attention that was being paid to professional football quarterback Tim Tebow. In order to do this, he used his own version of a David Bowie song, “Space Oddity.”
At first glance, it would appear that David Bowie and Tim Tebow are complete opposites , however, whenever an event brings people together, there is usually a strong astrological tie between them. David Bowie was born on January 8, 1947, in Brixton, England, at 9:15 a.m. GMT He first got his start in the early 1970s with his “glitter rock” persona, Ziggie Stardust. At one point he announced that he was bisexual, and participated in an open marriage with his wife Angela, who also said she was bisexual. His rising sign, unconventional Aquarius, certainly indicates that he enjoys shocking others with his unusual behavior.
However, his Sun is in conservative Capricorn, as is his Mercury and Mars. Once he achieved fame and fortune, he backed off on his claims of being bisexual, spent a lot of time touring and making records, and focused his attention on raising his and Angela's son after they divorced in 1980. David also changed his son’s name to David, after initially calling him Zowie at his birth in 1970.
The object of Jimmy Fallon’s comedy routine, Tim Tebow, was born on August 14, 1987, time unknown, in Makati, Philippines. His parents were working as missionaries at the time, and he is the youngest of five children. Tim does not hesitate to display his religious beliefs to the world. He is known to kneel in prayer on the football field, an act that has been called Tebowing by the media. When he was playing college football, he often wrote the numbers of biblical passages on the black paint below his eyes. In fact, because of Tim’s actions, a rule was passed forbidding college athletes to do so, unofficially called the Tebow Rule.
Tim’s Mercury, Venus and Mars are all in Leo, and all conjunct his Sun, so this guy has oodles of charisma! He just has to walk on the football field to garner attention. During the football season that began in the fall of 2011, Tim Tebow received the lion’s share of attention. He passed from the sports pages to the mainstream media, and was spoofed on Saturday Night Live, the satirical comedy show on NBC.
Jimmy Fallon, an analytical Virgo born September 19, 1974, saw a link between Bowie and Tebow, and joined the two personalities together in his song skit. One of the original lines in the song “Space Oddity,” the tune Jimmy used in the skit, says, “the newspapers want to know which shirt you wear,” as the song’s subject, Major Tom, is an astronaut and is front page news. Tim Tebow had become front page news, due to his ability to help his teammates, the Denver Broncos, win in the final quarter of games.
David Bowie’s Moon, Saturn, and Pluto are all conjunct in Leo, the sign that loves to be in the spotlight. Fallon caught on to the fact that both David Bowie and Tim Tebow had this love of center stage in common. Jimmy’s Venus at 13 Virgo is trine David’s Sun, one reason he likes and admires David Bowie, and spoofed him with good humor. Jimmy’s North node, the placement of good fortune, is trine Tim’s Leo stellium of planets. Jimmy has positive feelings for Tim Tebow, and used his humor in a way that wasn’t designed to belittle Tim or his religious beliefs.
The part of the body that Leo rules is the heart. Tim Tebow devotes a lot of his time to charitable causes and is sponsoring an effort to build a hospital in the Philippines. Though Tim enjoys attention, a fact he may be consciously or unconsciously aware of, he seems to be very generous to others. When Fallon did his skit on his late-night show, the Moon was at 11 Virgo, conjunct his Venus. The video of Jimmy Fallon singing “Tebowie” hit the Internet very quickly, and Jimmy was able to increase his ratings on the media hype surrounding Tebow, who was due to appear in the football playoffs against the New England Patriots the following day, Saturday, January 14. However, the Denver Broncos lost the game to the Patriots, and the football season ended for Tim Tebow. Once that happened, the media hype around him died down.
As you can see, anytime you have a close association with someone, there are always likely to be strong astrological contacts between you and that person. Comparing charts can be a very enlightening process and can help you discover the strengths and weaknesses of the relationship. Of course, you can also learn quite a lot by Sun-sign synastry. Read your Sun sign below to discover the synastry you have with your fellow zodiac denizens!
Aries: When you want to do the tango, call up a Leo or a Sagittarius. You and those two signs are of the Fire element, and you all certainly enjoy having a good time. When you connect with people that share your energy, and your astrological element, you thrive! Finding someone who wants to enjoy life as much as you do is your key to astrological compatibility. On the other side of the coin, you aren’t always on the same wavelength as people who are Cancers or Capricorns. Natives of these signs may tend to grate on your nerves. Cancers and Capricorns approach life in a much more cautious way than you do. You may find it hard to light a fire under them, especially when you are enthused about a new project.
Taurus: You are a mellow soul, but whenever someone waves a red flag in front of you, you tend to paw the ground and charge at the offender! Leos and Aquarians tend to rub you the wrong way. If you are the boss, and your employee is a brash Leo, or a know-it-all Aquarian, you may decide to bring him or her down a peg. You are a Fixed sign, and when you meet people as stubborn as yourself, you dig in your heels! However, when you connect with Virgos and Capricorns, you are in heaven. These people dance to the same rhythm as you do. You will spend hours happily walking on nature trails, or hiking in the mountains, with your fellow Earth-element companions.
Gemini: You love to chat with people, whether you are waiting in line in the coffee shop, or eating lunch in the cafeteria in your place of business. You are an Air sign. If a Libra or Aquarius starts working in the cubicle next to yours, you will be thrilled. You will have someone in close proximity who likes to talk as much as you do! Sharing your thoughts with others is the first step toward the beginning of a fulfilling relationship. You may, though, find it hard to connect with Scorpio and Pisces, as these people tend to be very emotional. You operate from a place of logic. When you are trying to make a point to your Scorpio brother or Pisces sister, he or she may not listen well to your very rational words.
Cancer: You are very vulnerable as a Water-element sign, and need to know that the person you entrust your heart to won’t play volleyball with it! Taurus and Virgo natives usually have the right amount of kindness to win your trust. You can rely on these people to be mindful of your sensitive nature. However, if you start to work for a blunt Sagittarius or a rude Aries, you may start to dislike going to work very quickly. These people may ignore your sensibilities, and ride roughshod over your emotions. You may need to develop a thicker skin if you are forced to deal with an employer who isn’t always as sweet to you as you would like him or her to be.
Leo: You thrive on being the center of attention in your circle. However, if you meet up with an Aquarius, you may discover that this person doesn’t want to massage your ego, or pay you compliments. Believe it or not, you may even have a similar experience if you start to hang out with a fellow Leo! That other Lion is just as competitive as you are, so very quickly it will be tit for tat as each strives to get ahead of the other. If you want to kick-start your social life, you will find you have success making friends with natives of the signs Gemini and Libra. Your zest for life and your generosity toward others will be appreciated by these people. Gemini and Libra natives will adore going shopping or attending social functions with you.
Virgo: You tend to be on the shy side, so it often takes you awhile to let your guard down with others. However, you may discover that you can open up more easily with Scorpios and Capricorns. These people won’t press you to confide your innermost thoughts and feelings until you are ready. Associating with a Scorpio or Capricorn will allow you to navigate the relationship at a steady pace. As an Earth sign, honesty is your middle name, so conflict may erupt when you are required to interact with a Pisces or a Gemini. These people may tend to bend the truth a little too much for your taste. If you meet a Pisces or Gemini colleague for coffee, you may have unreliable gossip whispered in your ear.
Libra: You strive to get along with others, as being a team player is your specialty. Of course, it’s not always possible to establish a harmonious relationship with everyone you meet. If you have a neighbor who is a Taurus or a Capricorn, the interaction may never get past hello. You might discover that these people are not interested in making small talk, as they tend to be very close-mouthed! If you are blessed to have relatives who are born under the signs of Sagittarius and Gemini, you will relish going to family reunions. In fact, you may agree to host a get-together at your place on a regular basis, just so you can interact with your outgoing Sagittarian Aunt Edna and jovial Gemini Uncle Ed.
Scorpio: You often draw a magic circle around yourself, and allow only a few select people to cross the line. Cancer and Pisces natives will usually be asked into your inner sanctum, or invited to break bread with you! People born under these signs have a strong sixth sense. When you meet up with someone who is as intuitive as you are, a strong rapport develops between you very quickly. You may endure lots of conflict in a relationship if you become involved with a fellow Scorpio or a forceful Leo. You don’t enjoy being told what to do, even if you know the person giving you the advice is correct. Power and control issues may become part of any association you have with a Scorpio or a Leo.
Sagittarius: When you throw a party, the guest list is likely to be a mile long. The more the merrier is your motto when it comes to social events. However, you may want to think carefully before asking a Virgo or a Cancer to join the festivities. These people find it hard to mingle easily with others, so you may become frustrated if you discover that the modest Virgo or timid Cancer you invited is standing in the corner, instead of doing a dance on top of your dining room table. If you are in the market for a new friend, you may have success opting for companionship with an Aquarius or an Aries. These people love to try new activities, and will adore accompanying you on trips to new locales.
Capricorn: You are very ambitious, and thus get along best with people who want to succeed in life. You may discover you have a lot in common with Taurus and Scorpio natives. You will enjoy getting together with these people in brainstorming sessions. As you put your heads together, you will be able to plot strategy on how to get ahead in your professional arenas. You may find it hard to relate to Gemini and Leo natives. Once you get to know these people, you tend to feel their approach to life is very superficial. You are of the Earth element, and thus on the serious side. If you sit next to a Gemini or Leo at work, you may become very irritated with him or her, and ask to move your desk.
Aquarius: Logic is a key trait of your Air-sign nature. When you are in a relationship, you are able to look at the issues involved very dispassionately. You may discover that you have trouble interacting with people who are born under the zodiac signs of Scorpio and Cancer, as they may be unable to separate their emotions from their thoughts in the same way that you can. You will get on splendidly with a new neighbor if he or she is an Aries or Gemini. Your curiosity about life will be matched by these people. In fact, you may discover that you enjoy spending so much time with your new Aries or Gemini neighbor, that you become an unofficial member of the household.
Pisces: You are very kindhearted, due in part to compassionate Neptune ruling your sign. When you interact with others, it’s important that you don’t allow your empathy to be misused. You may find that Taurus and Capricorn natives are honorable in the extreme, and will appreciate your listening ear, offering you a shoulder to lean on in return. You may discover that when you hang around with these two signs, you are in a win-win situation. Tension may erupt if you embark on a relationship with a Sagittarius or a Libra. Your feelings might be hurt due to the Sagittarian desire to tell it like it is. A Libra, after all, may not have the patience to hold your hand when you are feeling down in the dumps.